Don't feel bad Andrea.  I'm actually a pretty jolly guy.  I have a gift...a life as the very base of a new family tree, if you will.  I have no roots save those that were provided from me by my adopted parents.  It's not better or worse...just different.  Phrases like, "You have your father's eyes." are a mystery to me.  The fact that my kids are my only blood relatives is a precious feeling.  LOTS of stuff has been written about the benefits and problems of adoption.  But someone did me a favor and they weren't selfish...I wasn't used as a human doll to show off to friends...I was given to two capable, loving and frighteningly smart folks who tried harder than most to make me feel at home.  I have a family I wouldn't trade for anything.

I have a lot of contact with unwed moms...I know the things they feel at some level.  I can't say for sure what bio mom felt.  But but awful things crawl through our heads in times of dire extremity. 

Well, speaking of dire extremity, I must go give someone some bad news. 

PRH